what appears under the rug
I have to say that for a long time now I don't know how to name things.
It's been a while since when I hear words like: respectful parenting, positive discipline, attachment parenting, emotion management, white pedagogy…I start to tremble.
Because my head wants, wants to be within the group, like all human beings, I also want to belong, feel united to the group.
and I get in, with all my heart and all my trust and bang, goes and under the carpet the usual wolf is still hidden there.
The great wolf of DISTRUST. The greatest mistrust, distrust in human beings.
And then I realize how much further I have to go, ourselves. We adults so full of wounds, so insecure pretending to know everything.
Because we want, we want to respect, we want not to be authoritarian, we want because we know that the other harms, we know it well, we have lived it.
Because we also want to belong to the group and the group now says that we have to be respectful of the children and hey, We don't want to do it wrong and be singled out..
But what happens, all this is very good, looks very good as ideology in schools, in the workshops, in the blogs…
And everything we do in the shell, well that, that does not penetrate.
And I find that it goes and behind all that respect, What there are are different ways to achieve the usual. Let the child do what I want him to do. For your good, as before of course, as usual. And we believe it.
and I understand, it's hard, We live in a time of rush for everything, of achievements, competition, of schedules and we need the children to fit in as best they can because we have everything, and we have to reach everything.
So it goes and to feel better, we make them continue doing what we want but with other strategies.
And so we continue without looking at ourselves, looking at them all the time.
What they don't do and what they do, what they are not doing yet and should be doing and what they are doing and should not be doing. And come and give it, to intervene, to change, to seek information to improve them.
And they meanwhile, looking at us. Reflecting everything we don't see about ourselves.
Offering us a golden opportunity to improve ourselves.
But we continue to believe that we will make things change by changing them and that is how we survive the fear of working on ourselves..