Since we were little, we receive a lot of external signals that tell us that the path to acceptance by others, to integration within our environment, Survival in this world goes hand in hand with ‘control’ of our emotions and sensations.
As children we will observe how emotions like anger, the rabia, the sadness they turn out, the least, uncomfortable for those we love most and little by little we will learn to hide them, to make them as invisible as we can. And all this for many years provides us with the necessary help to feel the acceptance and the affection that we need so much to advance in our development.
And so many times we come to adults, having developed a lot of skills to keep us 'disconnected'’ from that part of us. We just haven't been able to make it disappear., It's like we've learned a different language., let's say an almost exclusively rational language to which everything that has to do with our feelings, emotions, sensations come to him in a way that he is not able to decode.
In the face of a crisis, something that destabilizes the balance that has cost us so much to achieve, a feeling of 'lack of control’ which is accompanied by much fear, distress, anxiety. And from the perception that I am a weak person’, that I can't with this.
From my point of view, We are born connected and we learn to disconnect. And like everything that is learned, we can unlearn it to, maybe, find a new perspective on things that makes us feel more complete, fuller and above all freer.