Why work with fathers and mothers

When I began to delve into the world of parenting and conscious education for a while, I felt very annoyed by always hearing messages intended for mothers or fathers..

It depressed me to observe how the child was completely overshadowed by so much speech and it seemed to me like another appendage of the tremendous adultism in which as a society we are immersed.

I remember complaining at a breastfeeding seminar that we had barely heard anything about babies., of your needs.

Over time I have met many fathers and many mothers., he heard a lot.

And after listening and listening and listening, sometimes with the heart and the insides shrunken, I have realized that after all, all the messages that come to me, hay FEAR.

I have realized that people treat badly, when they feel bad.

And that my ultimate goal of children being able to live emotionally and physically healthier childhoods can only be addressed helping their parents feel better about themselves.

I have noticed how repeating, making them notice the damage that these behaviors cause, What those words mean for your children, those acts, They still feel worse and more frustrated.

And that implies greater discomfort, more guilt, more pressure and more disconnection.

That's not to say that the information is unnecessary., It is very necessary to continue providing information about what a secure emotional bond, how fundamental the first years of life are, of the importance of preventing the emotional and physical health of children as full human beings.

As complete and fully capable people to develop if we do not intervene too much and let them be.

If we trust.

By this I mean that we become fathers and mothers being tremendously deprived., and from there we function in the best way we can, sometimes a terribly harmful way, repeating our own wounds.

I have realized that children They reflect everything that we parents carry inside..

It is a gift that life gives us so that we can move forward.

And no matter how much parents understand and try to practice what they learn,, if not internalize, but they give it to themselves, his children continue to reflect him.

And we create a false illusion that we are doing things differently, and if, They are somewhat different but only on the surface.

We still need control, we continue to suspect, we continue fighting for power.

We are still in the background in the same place but in a different disguise.