Make peace with your anxiety

If you have ever felt what we call anxiety, you will think that the last thing you would do in this world is appreciate it..

How is it possible to value such unpleasant sensations positively?!

Something that doesn't allow you to think clearly, that sometimes it is even so strong that it makes you think you could drown or that your heart is going to fail at any moment.

It seems reasonable that we would want to get rid of it as quickly as possible..

And that's what we'll try to do., We will try by all means to silence all those sensations in the best way we can.. Some of us will have some medicine on hand that reduces the sensations in the body., others will smoke a lot, or we'll go out for a few too many beers, or maybe we buy something we don't need. Some of us will go out to do sports excessively…

Anything that distracts us will be welcome.

These strategies will help us, maybe, to lower it. It may even disappear from the foreground and that will be enough for us to continue with life..

But most of the time we will feel it like that gum stuck to the shoe that, no matter how much we tear it off,, let's rub and wet, it keeps bothering us when we walk.

And if you know what I'm talking about, You will understand very well when I say that anxiety does not like to be shut up..

We will ask ourselves all the whys:

why now, if I'm not so bad.

why now, Yes I don't have any serious problem.

why me, yes I consider myself a strong person.

why me, if others don't seem to suffer it.

And while our heads smoke trying to rationalize everything, Each time our body will feel more and more altered.

And in anxiety, as in so many other emotions, the whys are of no use.

Emotions are there for a reason yeah, something has made them wake up. And that's really not important., They are already there and they are there for something.

What if you wonder, SO THAT?

As long as you silence her, don't pay attention to it and ignore it, your anxiety will look for ways to become more and more visible. Because it has a message for you. He wants you to attend to something, knows that something in your life is taking you away from yourself. And the only way he knows to let you know is like this, through these unpleasant sensations.

So, if all this doesn't work for us,

How can we address our anxiety?

Locate the sensations in your body.

Stop for a moment to feel your body. Where do you feel it? Is it on your neck, on your back, in your stomach, in your skull…? Take some time to become aware of your body and the sensations in it.. To do this, look for a space where you can be alone., no distractions. You can do it lying down in your bed before going to bed or sitting at any other time of the day..

But make sure that you will be able to be intimate with yourself for a few minutes..

It is about locating the sensations and becoming aware of the space they occupy and what they cause in that part of the body..

Breathe into that place.

You already have them located, Maybe you already notice all the tension in your neck, or that trembling in the arms or that pressure in the chest. Stay for a while with each of those sensations, without trying to change them, without judging them, just stay there, watching.

It's time to bring your breath to them, Take a deep breath and bring all that air to that area and keep observing..

It is not our intention to make them disappear, if not let them know we are there, that we are looking at them, attending to them, paying attention to them.

Offer your gratitude.

It may sound strange to you, But try to see if you can feel some gratitude toward that feeling.. Without it you wouldn't be taking care of yourself right now., giving you this space to serve you. It is the one that has put you on the path to seeking help, on the way to feeling better.

And while you send that thank you, you can maintain that observant attitude and see if anything relaxes..

Activate your curiosity.

If you have reached this point, That part of you may start to relax a little., and maybe then you can hear what he has to tell you. Maybe then he can talk to you about the great stress he has been under at work this last week., or how much that comment from your mother hurt him or that you haven't had any time for yourself these last few days.…maybe you have something saved for much longer.

She may also not feel safe yet to tell you what is happening to her., he may not yet trust that you will listen to him. She has appeared many times and you have not paid attention to her and now she is not entirely sure that you are really going to attend to her. Let him know that nothing is wrong, that you understand and that you will be there when she feels ready to talk to you.

Stay by his side for a while, as you would do with a good friend who needs your affection.

And when you feel like you've had enough, come back to the present moment.. Go back to your room, return to your breathing.

Your anxiety is frozen in all those things that hurt you in the past and is triggered and awakened by all the things in the present that vaguely remind you of what you felt..

It sets in motion to protect you from the harm it thinks you may suffer., of the damage you already suffered then.

Your anxiety doesn't know who you are now, you can let him know. You can make him feel like he's safe now..

that you, now, you are there to take care of yourself.